Experts explain why the key to being on time is understanding why you're always late.
By Sherry Rauh
New York lingerie designer Carolyn Keating was thrilled to land a job interview with Victoria's Secret. She knew that being on time was essential to making a good impression, but there was just one problem. "I had written down the address wrong. I meant to check it the night before on the computer, but I didn't." When Keating finally arrived at the correct address, she was 30 minutes late. "I felt embarrassed and it really flustered me," she tells WebMD. "I carried that insecure, worried, flustered energy throughout the interview." She didn't get the job.
Another time, Keating and several friends showed up 15 minutes late to a colleague's wedding. "The bride was already at the alter. She was basically saying 'I do' when we tumbled in, and it's hard for six or seven people to tiptoe in quietly. We were worried that we ruined the most important day of her life."
For some people, being on time seems nearly impossible -- no matter how important the event. They're always running out the door in a frenzy, arriving everywhere at least 10 minutes late. If this sounds like you, have you ever wished you could break the pattern? According to Julie Morgenstern, author of Time Management From the Inside Out, the first step is to make promptness a conscious priority.
"Look at the costs of being late and the payoffs of being on time," Morgenstern advises. She says it's important to recognize that being late is upsetting to others and stressful for the one who is late. "I think people's stress level is very high when they're late. They're racing, worried, and anxious. They spend the first few minutes apologizing. One of the payoffs of being on time is that you eliminate the stress of the travel time and you eliminate the time spent apologizing."
The Consequences of Being Late
The consequences of being chronically late run deeper than many people realize, according to psychologist Linda Sapadin, PhD, author of Master Your Fears. "You're creating a reputation for yourself, and it's not the best reputation to be establishing. People feel they can't trust you or rely on you, so it impacts relationships. It also impacts self-esteem."
Once you feel motivated to make a change, Morgenstern says the next step is to figure out why you're always late. The reason can usually be classified as either technical or psychological.
Technical Difficulties
"If you're always late by a different amount of time -- five minutes sometimes, 15, or even 40 minutes other times -- it is likely that the cause is technical," Morgenstern tells WebMD. "That means you are not good at estimating how long things take," whether it's drive times or routine activities like taking a shower.
(Concluded in our next post)
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Monday, September 28, 2009
10 Cancer-Fighting foods
By Melissa Breyer, Senior Editor, Healthy & Green Living
I’m going to put my Mommy hat on here, place my hands on my hips, look down at the broccoli you left on your plate, and tell you this: Eat your vegetables! Not because I’m a member of the clean-your-plate club, but because I care about you–and because I know this: in numerous studies following large groups of people, eating more vegetables and fruits has been linked to a lower risk of lung, oral, esophageal, stomach, and colon cancer. The thinking behind these results points to antioxidants and phytochemicals, natural compounds found in plants.
What are antioxidants? As described by the American Cancer Society (ACS), the body seems to use certain nutrients in vegetables and fruits to protect against damage to tissues that happens constantly as a result of normal metabolism (oxidation). Because such damage is linked with increased cancer risk, the antioxidant nutrients are thought to protect against cancer. Antioxidants include vitamin C, vitamin E, carotenoids, and many other phytochemicals (beneficial plant compounds).
Studies aside, it’s really a no-brainer. Eat real food, stay healthier. So now you’ve got not only a host of government programs telling you to eat your 5 to 9 servings of fruit and vegetables per day, you’ve got me hovering over your shoulder telling you to do the same! But I’ll go easy on you and offer up a few other plant-based suggestions as well. Here are ten super-duper cancer-fighting foods to add to your regime–these ten were chosen for their special cancer-kicking properties, as described on the Living Strong Living Well page of the Stanford School of Medicine Health Improvement Program.
The "Big Ten":
1. Beans
Beans contain a number of phytochemicals, which have been shown to prevent or slow genetic damage to cells. While this makes beans beneficial for helping to reduce your risk of many types of cancer, specific research has suggested they are especially potent in preventing prostate cancer. As an added bonus, the high fiber content of beans has been connected with a lower risk of digestive cancers.
2. Berries
The two most widely studied cancer-fighting compounds in berries are ellagic acid (richest in strawberries and raspberries) and anthocyanosides (richest in blueberries). Ellagic acid is believed to help prevent skin, bladder, lung, and breast cancers, both by acting as an antioxidant and by slowing the reproduction of cancer cells. The anthocyanosides in blueberries are currently the most powerful antioxidants known to scientists and are beneficial in the prevention of all types of cancer.
3. Cruciferous Vegetables (broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, kale)
Cruciferous vegetables-like broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, and kale-are rich in a variety of compounds that have been shown to slow cancer growth and development in a number of laboratory studies. Other larger human studies have shown that cruciferous vegetables can help to reduce the risk of lung, stomach, colorectal, prostate, and bladder cancers.
4. Dark Green Leafy Vegetables
Leafy-green vegetables-like romaine lettuce, mustard greens, chicory, and Swiss chard-are rich sources of antioxidants called carotenoids. These compounds scavenge dangerous free radicals from the body before they can promote cancer growth. The vegetables are also rich in folate, a vitamin shown to reduce the risk of lung and breast cancer.
5. Flaxseed
Flaxseed in the form of oil and meal contains phytoestrogens believed to reduce the risk of breast, skin, and lung cancer. Research on the potency of flaxseed as an anti-cancer food is still underway.
6. Garlic (including onions, scallions, leeks, and chives)
Garlic contains a number of compounds believed to slow or stop the growth of tumors. One such compound, diallyl disulfide, appears to be especially potent in protecting against skin, colon, and lung cancer, though it is not known exactly how it functions.
7. Grapes
Grapes and wine contain a chemical called resveratrol, which has been shown to be a potent antioxidant and anti-inflammatory agent. Resveratrol is thought to work by preventing cell damage before it begins. Red and purple grapes are the richest sources of resveratrol.
8. Green Tea (decaf)
Green tea is a rich source of a class of flavonoids known as catechins. Laboratory studies have shown that the catechins present in green tea are able to slow or prevent the development of cancer in colon, liver, breast, and prostate cells.
9. Tomatoes
The anti-cancer compound in tomatoes, lycopene, has been shown to be especially potent in combating prostate cancer. This compound appears to be more easily absorbed if the tomatoes are eaten in cooked form-either as tomato sauce, paste, or juice. In addition to preventing prostate cancer, lycopene may also protect against breast, lung, stomach, and pancreatic cancer.
10. Whole Grains
Whole grains contain a variety of anti-cancer compounds, including fiber, antioxidants, and phytoestrogens. When eaten as part of a balanced diet, whole grains can help decrease the risk of developing most types of cancer.
JACQUES' 2 cents...
Besides my sincere thanks and acknowledgement to MELISSA BREYER and her fine publication "Health and Green Living" (CARE2)for this excellent article on Wellness-enhancing foods, I could not think of a better day than this to share the above with you.
For today is Yom Kippur (a day of fasting, soul-searching, repentance, plans for self-improvement, pleas for G-d's absolution, blessings and insciption in "The Book of Life" throughout the new year, 5770) being celebrated by Jews around the World.
L'Shana Tovah to all my Jewish friends and their families!
And, as of tomorrow, Eat Well - including the foods above!
Yours in Good Health,
Jacques!
I’m going to put my Mommy hat on here, place my hands on my hips, look down at the broccoli you left on your plate, and tell you this: Eat your vegetables! Not because I’m a member of the clean-your-plate club, but because I care about you–and because I know this: in numerous studies following large groups of people, eating more vegetables and fruits has been linked to a lower risk of lung, oral, esophageal, stomach, and colon cancer. The thinking behind these results points to antioxidants and phytochemicals, natural compounds found in plants.
What are antioxidants? As described by the American Cancer Society (ACS), the body seems to use certain nutrients in vegetables and fruits to protect against damage to tissues that happens constantly as a result of normal metabolism (oxidation). Because such damage is linked with increased cancer risk, the antioxidant nutrients are thought to protect against cancer. Antioxidants include vitamin C, vitamin E, carotenoids, and many other phytochemicals (beneficial plant compounds).
Studies aside, it’s really a no-brainer. Eat real food, stay healthier. So now you’ve got not only a host of government programs telling you to eat your 5 to 9 servings of fruit and vegetables per day, you’ve got me hovering over your shoulder telling you to do the same! But I’ll go easy on you and offer up a few other plant-based suggestions as well. Here are ten super-duper cancer-fighting foods to add to your regime–these ten were chosen for their special cancer-kicking properties, as described on the Living Strong Living Well page of the Stanford School of Medicine Health Improvement Program.
The "Big Ten":
1. Beans
Beans contain a number of phytochemicals, which have been shown to prevent or slow genetic damage to cells. While this makes beans beneficial for helping to reduce your risk of many types of cancer, specific research has suggested they are especially potent in preventing prostate cancer. As an added bonus, the high fiber content of beans has been connected with a lower risk of digestive cancers.
2. Berries
The two most widely studied cancer-fighting compounds in berries are ellagic acid (richest in strawberries and raspberries) and anthocyanosides (richest in blueberries). Ellagic acid is believed to help prevent skin, bladder, lung, and breast cancers, both by acting as an antioxidant and by slowing the reproduction of cancer cells. The anthocyanosides in blueberries are currently the most powerful antioxidants known to scientists and are beneficial in the prevention of all types of cancer.
3. Cruciferous Vegetables (broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, kale)
Cruciferous vegetables-like broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, and kale-are rich in a variety of compounds that have been shown to slow cancer growth and development in a number of laboratory studies. Other larger human studies have shown that cruciferous vegetables can help to reduce the risk of lung, stomach, colorectal, prostate, and bladder cancers.
4. Dark Green Leafy Vegetables
Leafy-green vegetables-like romaine lettuce, mustard greens, chicory, and Swiss chard-are rich sources of antioxidants called carotenoids. These compounds scavenge dangerous free radicals from the body before they can promote cancer growth. The vegetables are also rich in folate, a vitamin shown to reduce the risk of lung and breast cancer.
5. Flaxseed
Flaxseed in the form of oil and meal contains phytoestrogens believed to reduce the risk of breast, skin, and lung cancer. Research on the potency of flaxseed as an anti-cancer food is still underway.
6. Garlic (including onions, scallions, leeks, and chives)
Garlic contains a number of compounds believed to slow or stop the growth of tumors. One such compound, diallyl disulfide, appears to be especially potent in protecting against skin, colon, and lung cancer, though it is not known exactly how it functions.
7. Grapes
Grapes and wine contain a chemical called resveratrol, which has been shown to be a potent antioxidant and anti-inflammatory agent. Resveratrol is thought to work by preventing cell damage before it begins. Red and purple grapes are the richest sources of resveratrol.
8. Green Tea (decaf)
Green tea is a rich source of a class of flavonoids known as catechins. Laboratory studies have shown that the catechins present in green tea are able to slow or prevent the development of cancer in colon, liver, breast, and prostate cells.
9. Tomatoes
The anti-cancer compound in tomatoes, lycopene, has been shown to be especially potent in combating prostate cancer. This compound appears to be more easily absorbed if the tomatoes are eaten in cooked form-either as tomato sauce, paste, or juice. In addition to preventing prostate cancer, lycopene may also protect against breast, lung, stomach, and pancreatic cancer.
10. Whole Grains
Whole grains contain a variety of anti-cancer compounds, including fiber, antioxidants, and phytoestrogens. When eaten as part of a balanced diet, whole grains can help decrease the risk of developing most types of cancer.
JACQUES' 2 cents...
Besides my sincere thanks and acknowledgement to MELISSA BREYER and her fine publication "Health and Green Living" (CARE2)for this excellent article on Wellness-enhancing foods, I could not think of a better day than this to share the above with you.
For today is Yom Kippur (a day of fasting, soul-searching, repentance, plans for self-improvement, pleas for G-d's absolution, blessings and insciption in "The Book of Life" throughout the new year, 5770) being celebrated by Jews around the World.
L'Shana Tovah to all my Jewish friends and their families!
And, as of tomorrow, Eat Well - including the foods above!
Yours in Good Health,
Jacques!
Thursday, September 17, 2009
The Butterfly Effect...An Unforgettable Story!
Hello everybody!
Jusr received the following email from MAC ANDERSON, Founder of "Simple Truths" which offers inspirational and other uplifting written and filmed entities.
Today's was an introduction to ANDY ANDREWS, the author of "The Butterfly Effect", which I feel privileged to share with you. ENJOY!...and, to my Jewish Friends: SHANA TOVAH!- Wishing you and yours a Happy, Healthy, Sweet, Fulfilled 5770!
-----
Dear Jacques,
I can count on one hand the times in my life when I heard a story and...could not stop thinking about it! The Butterfly Effect story was one of those times. In a word, it's AMAZING!
Andy Andrews, in my opinion, is one of the most talented writers in the country. His books have sold millions of copies. In fact, he's had two different books on the New York Times best-sellers list. But as a speaker...he's the best I've ever heard.
When he speaks, he usually closes with his favorite story (he says it's the one that every client remembers)...The Butterfly Effect. Therefore, to say I'm honored to partner with Andy to share this wonderful, true story with the rest of the world is an understatement!
Today, I'd like to share an excerpt from Andy's introduction to The Butterfly Effect. Enjoy!
Introduction from:
The Butterfly Effect...How Your Life Matters,
by Andy Andrews
Not long ago, I finally told the story of when, at the age of twenty-three, homeless and scared, I was given guidance in a most unusual fashion by an old man named Jones. What the old man told me did nothing less than change my life and my future. He said..."With a little perspective you can live a life of permanent purpose."
When I asked what he meant, the old man answered with a question. "Do you sometimes find yourself unconsciously judging your actions by level of importance?" I frowned a bit, not certain I understood. "For instance", he continued, "the time you spend with friends is important, but the time you spend with family, is more important. You might rank an hour fishing as very important, thirty minutes visiting a sick friend in the hospital much more important than the fishing, and a sixty second conversation with a convenience store clerk as not very important at all."
I nodded my understanding and he returned to his initial point. "When you know that everything matters - that every move counts as much as any other - you will begin living a life of permanent purpose. A life of permanent purpose will make you a better parent, a better spouse, and a more valuable friend. Your productivity and financial success will soar to new heights while the old days of uncertainty, doubt, and depression fade into the past."
Of course, that conversation with Jones changed me. But even more, it became the guiding force that produced the kind of speaker and author I have become. You see, I understand fully that my very value as an author and speaker must ultimately be judged by the success you achieve. And as I consult with companies or speak to organizations and teams, I am keenly aware that much of my client's (your) ability to succeed beyond imagination depends upon my ability to prove this very concept!
When a sales organization sees proof that casual conversations in town matter just as much as an arranged meeting with a major prospect -
When the second string right-guard sees proof that his every action on and off the field, whether he plays or not, is as critical to the team's successful season as everything the starting quarterback does -
When a teenager sees and understands proof that every choice made in leisure today will affect the choices that will be available to him in more pressing times ahead -
When one lives a life of permanent purpose, sales figures soar, team chemistry thrives, and teenage decisions become wiser and more cautious. And these are just a few examples of what will happen... Simply put, when we understand that every action matters, every result of our actions immediately improves!
In these pages, I know you will find hope and direction for yourself, but I am most excited that you will now be equipped to lead others to their own life of permanent purpose! My hope for our families, our places of worship, our businesses, our nation, and our world is an incredible life of permanent purpose that can be achieved when at last we understand: Every move we make and every action we take, matters not just for us, but for all of us...and for all time.
Live with Passion,
Mac Anderson
Founder, Simple Truths
Jusr received the following email from MAC ANDERSON, Founder of "Simple Truths" which offers inspirational and other uplifting written and filmed entities.
Today's was an introduction to ANDY ANDREWS, the author of "The Butterfly Effect", which I feel privileged to share with you. ENJOY!...and, to my Jewish Friends: SHANA TOVAH!- Wishing you and yours a Happy, Healthy, Sweet, Fulfilled 5770!
-----
Dear Jacques,
I can count on one hand the times in my life when I heard a story and...could not stop thinking about it! The Butterfly Effect story was one of those times. In a word, it's AMAZING!
Andy Andrews, in my opinion, is one of the most talented writers in the country. His books have sold millions of copies. In fact, he's had two different books on the New York Times best-sellers list. But as a speaker...he's the best I've ever heard.
When he speaks, he usually closes with his favorite story (he says it's the one that every client remembers)...The Butterfly Effect. Therefore, to say I'm honored to partner with Andy to share this wonderful, true story with the rest of the world is an understatement!
Today, I'd like to share an excerpt from Andy's introduction to The Butterfly Effect. Enjoy!
Introduction from:
The Butterfly Effect...How Your Life Matters,
by Andy Andrews
Not long ago, I finally told the story of when, at the age of twenty-three, homeless and scared, I was given guidance in a most unusual fashion by an old man named Jones. What the old man told me did nothing less than change my life and my future. He said..."With a little perspective you can live a life of permanent purpose."
When I asked what he meant, the old man answered with a question. "Do you sometimes find yourself unconsciously judging your actions by level of importance?" I frowned a bit, not certain I understood. "For instance", he continued, "the time you spend with friends is important, but the time you spend with family, is more important. You might rank an hour fishing as very important, thirty minutes visiting a sick friend in the hospital much more important than the fishing, and a sixty second conversation with a convenience store clerk as not very important at all."
I nodded my understanding and he returned to his initial point. "When you know that everything matters - that every move counts as much as any other - you will begin living a life of permanent purpose. A life of permanent purpose will make you a better parent, a better spouse, and a more valuable friend. Your productivity and financial success will soar to new heights while the old days of uncertainty, doubt, and depression fade into the past."
Of course, that conversation with Jones changed me. But even more, it became the guiding force that produced the kind of speaker and author I have become. You see, I understand fully that my very value as an author and speaker must ultimately be judged by the success you achieve. And as I consult with companies or speak to organizations and teams, I am keenly aware that much of my client's (your) ability to succeed beyond imagination depends upon my ability to prove this very concept!
When a sales organization sees proof that casual conversations in town matter just as much as an arranged meeting with a major prospect -
When the second string right-guard sees proof that his every action on and off the field, whether he plays or not, is as critical to the team's successful season as everything the starting quarterback does -
When a teenager sees and understands proof that every choice made in leisure today will affect the choices that will be available to him in more pressing times ahead -
When one lives a life of permanent purpose, sales figures soar, team chemistry thrives, and teenage decisions become wiser and more cautious. And these are just a few examples of what will happen... Simply put, when we understand that every action matters, every result of our actions immediately improves!
In these pages, I know you will find hope and direction for yourself, but I am most excited that you will now be equipped to lead others to their own life of permanent purpose! My hope for our families, our places of worship, our businesses, our nation, and our world is an incredible life of permanent purpose that can be achieved when at last we understand: Every move we make and every action we take, matters not just for us, but for all of us...and for all time.
Live with Passion,
Mac Anderson
Founder, Simple Truths
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Money, Money, Money, Mo-ney, MO-NEE!
Reply to: jgmakebigbucks7@gmail.com
You heard Donald Trump's TV show's theme song---
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You heard Donald Trump's TV show's theme song---
Well, now, YOU too CAN Get ALL the MONEY you'll ever need for ALL your Real Estate deals! Use OUR Credit, PROOF of FUNDS letters and CA$H!
Pay NOTHING UP-FRONT---YOUR credit, income, etc. are NOT checked!
---and the LOWEST FEE Anywhere for our transactional loan is only repaid AFTER your deal closes---and only out of your profits!
FINANCE Residential, Commercial, Prime Land, REOs, Short Sales, Foreclosures, etc. up to $50 Million per transaction!
EASY application online. ALL documents and contracts (templates you simply fill in) provided FREE, along with expert professional insiders' weekly special trainings with updates for TODAY's Market $UCCE$$ - FREE to Members. Ask me how to join for FREE, and more...
CALL TODAY toll-FREE: (800) 701-1924, Ext. 29
DR. JACQUES GIRARD, Ph.D.
Program Director
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http://weprovidethecash.com/?id=makebigbucks
Sunday, September 6, 2009
An excellent insight into Emotions...
Hi all,
I have missed communicating with you on a more regular basis. However, I have become REALLY busy helping many people to safely enter into and benefit from the HOTTEST Real Estate market in a Century.(FYI: Real Estate Investing became a fascination with me over a quarter of a century ago---Today, it could provide for the rest of my life!)
As a matter of fact, before I get into today's post with you, let me give you my REI (Real Estate Investing) website address:
http://weprovidethecash.com/?id=makebigbucks ---
I invite you to check it out in-depth and either email and/or call me personally if you have any questions:
E.: jgmakebigbucks7@gmail.com
T.: (800) 701-1924.
Awesome incomes from REI profits are being made and built daily! In another post, I shall give you more details. Meanwhile, please check out my website and let me know..
Wishing you and yours a fun and Safe Labor Day Weekend!
Your Friend,
Jacques
_________
The following was sent me by my dear friend Yael, and deserves everyone's conscientious attention!:
One of the major questions in life is, "Do we control our emotions
or do our emotions control us?" The bible teaches that we have the ability to control our emotions. It is not easy, but it can be done.
One of the most disruptive, destructive and devastating traits is anger. It can harm us and others spiritually, physically, emotionally, and socially.
Hopefully, this piece will be of use ... if for nothing else than passing it on to someone you care about.
Q & A: WHAT CAUSES ANGER AND
HOW CAN IT BE CONQUERED?
The Sages tell us (Talmud, Shabbat 115) regarding a person who gets angry that it is as if he worshiped idols.
What idol is he worshipping? Himself! We get angry because we have expectations that everything must be exactly as we want it to be. No wonder the author of Orchos Tzadikim (The Way of the Righteous) says that a person controlled by anger denies himself happiness in life.
An angry person is out of control and at the whim of outside forces!
Let's analyze when we get angry: We trip on something, someone bumps into us; a colleague, spouse or child doesn't listen to us. In the first two cases, something happens that we aren't expecting. In the latter case, it is the frustration of having our will thwarted!
Anger comes from having a fragile ego. We interpret what happens as a direct personal attack instead of happenstance, sloth, incompetence or inconsideration. Internally, we are telling ourselves: "How can this be happening to me - I am too important for this to happen to me!"
There is a place for anger - the most appropriate place being in the dictionary.
Also, if you are physically attacked, anger focuses one's response. An angry person may be listened to (if he has the power), but he appears like a meshugenah (a crazy person); will be feared, not loved; endangers his health (through high blood pressure) and is not being maximally effective or enjoying life.
If he is trying to rebuke his children or students, they may hear his point, but they will come away with an awful role model on how to handle stress or displeasure. (A parent owes his child three things: example, example, example.)
It has been said that raising children by yelling at them is like driving a car by honking the horn. One should appear angry when punishing a child, but never punish a child out of anger!
Anger can be controlled. Imagine that someone bumps into you very hard; you start to get angry and then you turn around to see that it is a blind man - or that special person you've always wanted to meet - or a 6'6" bully.
Your perspective immediately changes and you might find that asking, "Did you hurt yourself?" is a more appropriate or judicious response.
Other tips on controlling anger:
(1) Realize that anger is counter-productive and commit to not getting angry.
(2) Appreciate how insane you look when you do get angry (perhaps carry a pocket mirror and refuse to get angry until you take it out to watch yourself!).
(3) Set up "a fine system" and pay someone (preferably someone you don't like) a large fine if you get angry.
(4) Imagine that you just won the Lottery - would you still get angry over this trifle? (If you don't get angry, you have just won the Lottery in the battle to control your behavior!)
(5) Delay getting angry - yes, count to 10 - or leave the room before exploding.
(6) If you do get angry, cut it short and be sure to apologize and set yourself to do better in the future.
I have missed communicating with you on a more regular basis. However, I have become REALLY busy helping many people to safely enter into and benefit from the HOTTEST Real Estate market in a Century.(FYI: Real Estate Investing became a fascination with me over a quarter of a century ago---Today, it could provide for the rest of my life!)
As a matter of fact, before I get into today's post with you, let me give you my REI (Real Estate Investing) website address:
http://weprovidethecash.com/?id=makebigbucks ---
I invite you to check it out in-depth and either email and/or call me personally if you have any questions:
E.: jgmakebigbucks7@gmail.com
T.: (800) 701-1924.
Awesome incomes from REI profits are being made and built daily! In another post, I shall give you more details. Meanwhile, please check out my website and let me know..
Wishing you and yours a fun and Safe Labor Day Weekend!
Your Friend,
Jacques
_________
The following was sent me by my dear friend Yael, and deserves everyone's conscientious attention!:
One of the major questions in life is, "Do we control our emotions
or do our emotions control us?" The bible teaches that we have the ability to control our emotions. It is not easy, but it can be done.
One of the most disruptive, destructive and devastating traits is anger. It can harm us and others spiritually, physically, emotionally, and socially.
Hopefully, this piece will be of use ... if for nothing else than passing it on to someone you care about.
Q & A: WHAT CAUSES ANGER AND
HOW CAN IT BE CONQUERED?
The Sages tell us (Talmud, Shabbat 115) regarding a person who gets angry that it is as if he worshiped idols.
What idol is he worshipping? Himself! We get angry because we have expectations that everything must be exactly as we want it to be. No wonder the author of Orchos Tzadikim (The Way of the Righteous) says that a person controlled by anger denies himself happiness in life.
An angry person is out of control and at the whim of outside forces!
Let's analyze when we get angry: We trip on something, someone bumps into us; a colleague, spouse or child doesn't listen to us. In the first two cases, something happens that we aren't expecting. In the latter case, it is the frustration of having our will thwarted!
Anger comes from having a fragile ego. We interpret what happens as a direct personal attack instead of happenstance, sloth, incompetence or inconsideration. Internally, we are telling ourselves: "How can this be happening to me - I am too important for this to happen to me!"
There is a place for anger - the most appropriate place being in the dictionary.
Also, if you are physically attacked, anger focuses one's response. An angry person may be listened to (if he has the power), but he appears like a meshugenah (a crazy person); will be feared, not loved; endangers his health (through high blood pressure) and is not being maximally effective or enjoying life.
If he is trying to rebuke his children or students, they may hear his point, but they will come away with an awful role model on how to handle stress or displeasure. (A parent owes his child three things: example, example, example.)
It has been said that raising children by yelling at them is like driving a car by honking the horn. One should appear angry when punishing a child, but never punish a child out of anger!
Anger can be controlled. Imagine that someone bumps into you very hard; you start to get angry and then you turn around to see that it is a blind man - or that special person you've always wanted to meet - or a 6'6" bully.
Your perspective immediately changes and you might find that asking, "Did you hurt yourself?" is a more appropriate or judicious response.
Other tips on controlling anger:
(1) Realize that anger is counter-productive and commit to not getting angry.
(2) Appreciate how insane you look when you do get angry (perhaps carry a pocket mirror and refuse to get angry until you take it out to watch yourself!).
(3) Set up "a fine system" and pay someone (preferably someone you don't like) a large fine if you get angry.
(4) Imagine that you just won the Lottery - would you still get angry over this trifle? (If you don't get angry, you have just won the Lottery in the battle to control your behavior!)
(5) Delay getting angry - yes, count to 10 - or leave the room before exploding.
(6) If you do get angry, cut it short and be sure to apologize and set yourself to do better in the future.
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